Sex Therapists Say These “Performance Problems” Are Actually Super Common

5. The Desire To Be Intimate Has Depleted

Sometimes triggered by a medical illness or some sort of treatment is a low desire for sex, and “this is very frustrating for both patients and clinicians because there is no ‘little blue pill’ for desire,” said Sharon L. Bober, Ph.D.

It’s time to dive deep into your relationship with yourself and your partner to see what the cause of your lack of sexual interest is.

4. Sex That Hurts Can Pain Your Relationship

Intimacy between you and your partner is meant to be enjoyed, and it can be difficult when you or your spouse experiences painful intercourse.

There are different ways to approach this problem. “The first is to look for a physical cause in the genitalia. The second is to attribute the pain to sexual abuse or trauma or an emotional state, such as depression or anxiety,” stated Irving Binik, Ph.D.

Slide #1 can make any sexual encounter almost impossible!

3. An Obsession With Sex Can Be Damaging

If you or your partner experience some sort of sex addiction, this can put a severe strain on the relationship.

“My approach to addressing it often begins with examining underlying trigger factors, such as poor stress control, the family of origin conflicts or drug and alcohol abuse,” said Mark D. Ackerman, Ph.D.

Therapy or counseling can help those dealing with sex addiction set boundaries and better control their impulses.

2. A Lack Of Sex Can Leave Couples Unsatisfied

A decrease in sexual intimacy can be difficult for any couple to deal with.

“The solution is not a one-size-fits-all model,” stated Sari Cooper, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Sex Coach, “there are numerous reasons that couples decrease or stop having sex, like erectile dysfunction, pain during intercourse, boredom with the sexual routine, loss of libido due to illness, medications or stress in the relationship.”

It’s important to have a continued interest in your partner, even if that means spending some time alone to remember what attracts you to them in the first place!

1. He Can’t Get Things Going — At All

Having difficulty getting it up can be embarrassing and frustrating for men, but it’s definitely not uncommon.

“The most common sexual issue that clients in my practice present is erectile difficulty. If there is no medical basis or contribution to the erectile difficulty, usually anxiety is interfering with the man’s capacity to become and remain aroused,” said Bruce Berman, Ph.D.

Practicing touching exercises or other forms of intimacy before having sex can help many men regain power over their arousal.

Sex is not always so effortless as it appears in the movies, and sometimes couples need a little help when it comes to rebuilding intimacy and getting their sex life on track. Sex therapists help couples work through many problems regarding their sex life, and each one is as unique as the next.

Don’t be scared to speak up if you think your relationship could use a bit of assistance in the bedroom. There are health professionals willing to help you and your partner through it, and the result could be intimacy better than ever before.

Time to get it on!