Sex Therapists Say These “Performance Problems” Are Actually Super Common

Sex is everywhere. It’s on our television ads, our favorite shows, and ever so present in our social media feeds. Although two people (or more, if that’s your thing) getting it on seems pretty straightforward, there is a lot more to sex than what meets the eye.

Sex therapists have pinpointed some of the most common problems couples experience, so if you have any doubts about your bedroom game, maybe you’re not alone.

Oh, and every couple can work on slide #7!

10. Sex Can Be Super Complicated

It’s human nature to want to be close with your partner, but what if something just doesn’t seem right? Problems in the bedroom are more common that you think.

Some of the most prevalent sex problems you may experience with your partner can be solved with a little time and communication, and slide #6 can seems to be a reoccurring issue for working couples!

9. Being Closed-Off In The Emotional Department

Being attracted to your partner and pleasing them physically is only one part of the sexual experience. “We don’t know how to breathe, we don’t know how to relax and we are so goal, media, experience and image-driven that we have lost something the media doesn’t tout: sexual intimacy,” said Rebecca Hope Dnistran, MA, LMFT.

It’s all about getting to know your partner and their needs, and your love life will be back on track.

8. Infidelity Can Ruin A Couple’s Intimacy

“The majority of my practice is working with couples at the brink of breakup. Most often there is, or has been, a newly discovered affair,” stated Rita DeMaria, Ph.D.

To overcome this broken trust, couples must get to the root of the problem by getting close again. Getting back to the basics by enjoying each other’s company and showing affection outside of the bedroom is important to reforming a sexual bond.

Slide #4 shows some things may be out of your control!

7. Not Being On The Same Page Can Lead To Problems

Having sexual desires that do not line up can lead to trouble. “The most common sex problem I see is a lack of sexual desire, and I particularly see this with couples, where one person has a much higher sexual drive or desire than the other partner,” stated Michael Aaron, Ph.D.

The solution lies in getting to the root of the problem. Has there been some betrayal in the relationship? Is someone experiencing pain during intercourse? Couples need to honestly express their sexual needs.

6. Finding Time For Romance Can Be Difficult

Some couples say “they are just too busy for sex, rather than expressing and exploring their intimate needs and wishes with each other,” stated Cathy Beaton, M.S., NCPsyA.

You can always make time for romance, but make sure other problems lingering in the relationship aren’t stopping you from enjoying your partner. You may be experiencing the opposite of this problem in slide #3!