No one wants to be lied to, and yet the practice is actually quite common. In some cases, you get hit with a habitual white lie. But there are also those situations where people are lying with ill intentions.
Either way, it’s nice to know that your suspicions are correct. Here are some ways to tell that you’ve been lied to right away.
10. They Offer Up Too Many Details
When liars feel put on the spot, they are likely to add more details to their story than necessary in an effort to paint a believable picture. They worry that you might not believe them if they just mention that they went to the store, so they also elaborate with a story about someone that they met there and might even ramble in a new direction entirely.
9. The Liar Is Ready To Run
When people are lying in response to a question that they don’t want to answer, they will also be looking to take the soonest out possible. Their body will quickly start revealing this intention. This might be tapping their feet or angling themselves toward the door in preparation to head through it.
8. Their Eye Movement Feels Unnatural
An authentic conversation includes a natural amount of eye contact as well as moments of looking away. When people are lying, they are more likely to either avoid eye contact or over compensate by making a lot of it. We say that people have “shifty” eyes for a reason, it looks suspicious. As does a strong stare with minimal blinking, which is sometimes used by liars in an attempt to assert their dominance.
7. Their Voice Changes
Lying can make a person feel pretty anxious, and that anxiety has some direct effects on the body. Sometimes when people are uncomfortable, they tighten and pull up their shoulders which can make their voice sound more shallow. Anxiety can also dry out the mouth which leads to throat clearing and trouble getting words out.
6. They Cover Their Mouth
Sometimes liars try to cover their story by literally covering their mouth. They might touch a lip, put their whole hand in front of their mouth, or even take a sip of a drink and let the cup hover there as they speak. Honest people aren’t generally trying to hide as they talk. Touching the mouth might also be a diversion move for the lying habit that we see in item number three.
5. They Repeat Themselves
To drive home the lie, some liars will use the tactic of repeating a word or phrase multiple times. On some level, they believe that repeating themselves will make something sound true when it really does the opposite and tips the listener off to an unnatural speaking pattern. They might be trying to convince themselves of something as well as you.
4. Their Words And Facial Expressions Don’t Match
Some people are pretty effective liars, but others aren’t so practiced. For this reason, someone’s words might not match their facial expressions or body movements. A common example is noticing that someone is on the verge of tears as they swear that everything is fine. You can tell by the downturn of their mouth and a furrowed brow that something isn’t right whether they admit it or not.
3. They Take A Strong Pause
A pause here or there has its place in an honest conversation, but if you ask someone a direct question and they take a hard pause it’s reasonable to wonder why. What’s probably happening is that they’re taking a moment to gather their thoughts, which they might need to make up the story before they start speaking.
2. They Don’t Claim To Be Telling The Truth
If you ask someone point blank if they’re lying to you or why you should believe them, how they respond can tell you a lot. An honest person might simply respond no, or say “because it’s the truth.” A liar will have a less direct response and might claim to be trustworthy rather than claim to be telling the truth. Turning the conversation around with a “You don’t trust me?” is a defensive move, which we delve into more on the next slide.
1. They Turn The Blame On You
When people feel threatened in a conversation, they are more likely to get defensive and aggressive. Often this means pointing their finger at the person who is accusing them of lying. Your question might have been straightforward and well-intentioned, but if they don’t like that you asked it, they’ll try to deflect and play the victim in hopes that you’ll back off.
As you can see, there are quite a lot of clues that can alert you to the fact that you’re being lied right away, without waiting for more proof of the suspicion. Of course, these signs don’t always mean that someone is lying since general discomfort or anxiety in a conversation can lead to similar physical responses. But when there are a few of these things present and what someone is saying doesn’t seem to add up, it probably doesn’t. At that point, you’re left with the decision of whether you want to call them out on the lie or not.