Artistic Father-Daughter Team Go Viral For Loving, Crazy Hair Pics

featured-imageSometimes it’s the little things in life that make it all worth living. There’s a great pleasure to be drawn from seeing happy people leading happy lives and that’s where Benny Harlem comes in.

Benny’s become something of a social media sensation and for a good reason. Unlike the Kardashians and other purveyors of sleaze online, Benny’s caught the public eye because of his healthy, loving and proud relationship with his daughter.

His story is quite amazing and it makes his current success even easier to appreciate. So let’s take a look at how Benny Harlem became a star.

12. Aspirational

001-12-aspirational-a10d145966ef53f33e90e1852c5b5e07Benny Harlem has a seven-year-old daughter named Jaxyn. Benny’s working as an artist, musician and model, but he’s caught some attention for his incredibly loving relationship with his daughter. You won’t believe how many people have tuned into them on social media to follow their story.

11. Matching Hair

002-11-matching-hair-2e53af91cf65f0527b267cdbb3d5e457Harlem and his daughter, Jaxyn, couldn’t be more clearly related if they tried. Those awesome hairdos are 100% real and there are no extensions or weaves involved. It’s obviously a good look because it has inspired more than 200,000 people to follow their photo account on Instagram.

10. Inspiring Ideals

003-10-inspiring-ideals-61ecdac3218d71aa2491dae1cb5d8907Harlem’s happy that the world can see how much he loves his daughter and she loves him in return but that’s not the only reason he uses his Instagram account. He wants to inspire people to have better relationships with their children and to act responsibly within those relationships.

9. Fatherly Love

004-9-fatherly-love-927f7d6d04b5e33cc6a68771e8d2a4feHarlem says he’s proud to put his daughter at the highest point in his life. He says that she’s got to learn to love herself because then everything else in her life will fall into line. It’s something that he learned through bitter experience because of his own family situation.

8. Harlem First Saw His Father at 7

005-8-harlem-first-saw-his-father-at-7-6b7d7c07f86afaa8215ef63d34b14104Harlem’s dad was absent in his early years and it wasn’t until he was 7 years old that he finally got to meet his father. Sadly, when his mother and grandmother brought his dad to meet him what happened was far more upsetting that enlightening as you’ll see.

7. A Painful Meeting

006-7-a-painful-meeting-c5cd15143dfb62b021b93b44ee32d352Harlem’s meeting with his father, when it took place, did not go well. “He looked at me for about 10 seconds and said I don’t have a son.”

He’s grateful for that. He was able to draw strong inspiration from the women in his life instead and where it led him was amazing.

6. A Life of Art

007-6-a-life-of-art-376b09eef2004478eeffa06a2dcbb640Instead of falling into despair over his father’s rejection, Harlem turned it into an opportunity. He threw himself into the arts. He studied the greats from all ages from Michelangelo to Tupac and drew inspiration from all of them for his and his daughter’s look. Guess what he learned from his grandma?

5. Grandma’s Input

008-5-grandma-s-input-9b2ede199b60df69f95f8542503b978fHarlem attributes his grandmother’s example as the reason that he feels so free to express himself with his look and hair. He also says that because he grew up in Harlem, New York that people there were very accepting of his ways and that let him develop and refine his style.

4. Be Who You Want to Be

009-4-be-who-you-want-to-be-79af2d377da701e7f6aa0d95a00bbcb1Speaking to Paper Harlem said, “I just want to be different, creative, crazy, fun and fly and swagged out at the same time. You can be who you want to be. You can be flamboyant, you can be down to earth. I’m a gumbo pot of that.” So maybe that explains the hair?

3. No Rebellion

010-3-no-rebellion-f4c5824ba3756fb612ca93cab5577ff0Harlem says that his long hair isn’t some form of rebellion or snarky statement on society. He says that it’s a form of self-expression instead. He grew up in the 70s and 80s when long hair became an acceptable way for a man to develop his public identity.

2. Awe-Inspiring Hair

011-2-awe-inspiring-hair-0844802fa505aef86a75d0f1ef30b6b6Harlem and his daughter love to show off their hair now and he says this is part of his efforts to ensure that his daughter has self-confidence. He says she needs to learn to expect respect and she’ll do that through learning to love herself as a beautiful girl.

1. Serious Fatherly Responsibilities

012-1-serious-fatherly-responsibilities-bd9de10c3d236206c35e0df775dab1f8Harlem boldly tells the world that fatherhood isn’t just about meeting the simple material needs of your child, it’s also about meeting their spiritual and developmental needs too, “I am my daughter’s keeper. The only way to protect her from life is to prepare her for life.”

Never underestimate the power of love to transform the world. This amazing father and his daughter are truly inspirational. He took his own hurt and pain at his own father’s rejection and channeled it into being an awesome father.

That’s a much better response than treating a child badly and taking out your frustrations on them.

So we salute Harlem and we’d like to show the world that there are more awesome fathers out there too. Why not tell us about something special that your father did for you when you were young? We’d love to hear about it.


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