Benny’s become something of a social media sensation and for a good reason. Unlike the Kardashians and other purveyors of sleaze online, Benny’s caught the public eye because of his healthy, loving and proud relationship with his daughter.
His story is quite amazing and it makes his current success even easier to appreciate. So let’s take a look at how Benny Harlem became a star.
Benny Harlem has a seven-year-old daughter named Jaxyn. Benny’s working as an artist, musician and model, but he’s caught some attention for his incredibly loving relationship with his daughter. You won’t believe how many people have tuned into them on social media to follow their story.
11. Matching Hair
Harlem and his daughter, Jaxyn, couldn’t be more clearly related if they tried. Those awesome hairdos are 100% real and there are no extensions or weaves involved. It’s obviously a good look because it has inspired more than 200,000 people to follow their photo account on Instagram.
10. Inspiring Ideals
Harlem’s happy that the world can see how much he loves his daughter and she loves him in return but that’s not the only reason he uses his Instagram account. He wants to inspire people to have better relationships with their children and to act responsibly within those relationships.
9. Fatherly Love
Harlem says he’s proud to put his daughter at the highest point in his life. He says that she’s got to learn to love herself because then everything else in her life will fall into line. It’s something that he learned through bitter experience because of his own family situation.
8. Harlem First Saw His Father at 7
Harlem’s dad was absent in his early years and it wasn’t until he was 7 years old that he finally got to meet his father. Sadly, when his mother and grandmother brought his dad to meet him what happened was far more upsetting that enlightening as you’ll see.
7. A Painful Meeting
He’s grateful for that. He was able to draw strong inspiration from the women in his life instead and where it led him was amazing.
6. A Life of Art
Instead of falling into despair over his father’s rejection, Harlem turned it into an opportunity. He threw himself into the arts. He studied the greats from all ages from Michelangelo to Tupac and drew inspiration from all of them for his and his daughter’s look. Guess what he learned from his grandma?
5. Grandma’s Input
Harlem attributes his grandmother’s example as the reason that he feels so free to express himself with his look and hair. He also says that because he grew up in Harlem, New York that people there were very accepting of his ways and that let him develop and refine his style.
4. Be Who You Want to Be
Speaking to Paper Harlem said, “I just want to be different, creative, crazy, fun and fly and swagged out at the same time. You can be who you want to be. You can be flamboyant, you can be down to earth. I’m a gumbo pot of that.” So maybe that explains the hair?
3. No Rebellion
Harlem says that his long hair isn’t some form of rebellion or snarky statement on society. He says that it’s a form of self-expression instead. He grew up in the 70s and 80s when long hair became an acceptable way for a man to develop his public identity.
2. Awe-Inspiring Hair
Harlem and his daughter love to show off their hair now and he says this is part of his efforts to ensure that his daughter has self-confidence. He says she needs to learn to expect respect and she’ll do that through learning to love herself as a beautiful girl.
1. Serious Fatherly Responsibilities
Harlem boldly tells the world that fatherhood isn’t just about meeting the simple material needs of your child, it’s also about meeting their spiritual and developmental needs too, “I am my daughter’s keeper. The only way to protect her from life is to prepare her for life.”
Never underestimate the power of love to transform the world. This amazing father and his daughter are truly inspirational. He took his own hurt and pain at his own father’s rejection and channeled it into being an awesome father.
That’s a much better response than treating a child badly and taking out your frustrations on them.
So we salute Harlem and we’d like to show the world that there are more awesome fathers out there too. Why not tell us about something special that your father did for you when you were young? We’d love to hear about it.